You Are What You Tolerate

The world is changing. Morals are decaying, men are getting softer, children more entitled, gender and sexuality confused, surveillance increasing, consumption growing, and individual freedoms eroding. You might live a virtuous, happy life — but if you stand by idly and tolerate decay, you’re not stopping it. You are what you tolerate.

Key Takeaways

• Tolerance sets your true standard — not your intentions.
• Draw a firm line in the sand and enforce it consistently.
• Lead at home: model standards in media, school, and fitness.
• Start small, build compliance gradually, and stick to the plan.
• Your example raises the floor for your family and community.

Lines In The Sand: Media Inputs

Television has ramped up violence, nudity, coarse language, and agendas. Desensitization creeps in. Where’s your line? If you don’t like where programming is headed, turn it off — and explain why. Don’t drift into complacency; act and lead by example.

Lines In The Sand: Raising Children

Maybe you were an overachiever — but now accept average grades to avoid conflict. Or you allow junk food and devices to replace movement. If you’re fit, set the standard for them. That requires work and a strategy. If you’ve been lax, pivot gradually with a clear plan and consistent follow‑through.

Implementation: Make Standards Real

1. Write 3–5 non‑negotiables (e.g., no M‑rated shows, family dinner, daily movement).
2. Start with the easiest win; enforce calmly and consistently.
3. Replace banned inputs with constructive alternatives.
4. Review weekly; add the next standard when the first sticks.
5. Model first — “do as I do” beats lectures.

Why It Matters

Most people hold “mental” lines but never act. Without intentional action, you’ll live below your standards — and so will those you lead. You’re only as good as what you tolerate.

Draw the line. Stand by it. Lead by example.

Frequently Asked Questions

How do I avoid being overbearing?

Explain the why, set clear expectations, apply consequences consistently, and celebrate compliance. Be firm and kind.

What if I’ve been lax for years?

Start small. Change one behavior for 2–3 weeks, then stack. Momentum and credibility build with wins.

How do I handle pushback from kids?

Offer choices within boundaries (this healthy snack or that one; book or board game). Stay calm; consistency beats arguments.

What about media “for adults only” at home?

Apply the same standard: model the line you expect. Guard your inputs; your habits set the household norm.