Do Hard Shit

You ever meet that dude who’s timid, eyes down, shoulders slouched, opinion muted, avoids confrontation, fears trying new things? Maybe that’s someone you know — maybe that’s you. If you want out, here’s the truth: books can help, but hard shit changes you.

Key Takeaways

• Advice is useful; identity is forged. Do hard things until you believe you’re capable.
• “Hard” is relative — pick an obscenely difficult goal for you.
• You should question it, want to quit, and push anyway. Too easy? Pick harder.
• Long, patient reps build toughness; short hacks don’t.
• Finish, recover, raise the bar. Repeat. That’s how confidence compounds.

Why You Feel Small

Timidity and low self‑worth come from not trusting yourself under stress. You don’t need more quotes — you need reps under load. Doing the hard thing teaches your mind and body: I can attack, adapt, and overcome. That belief changes how you walk, talk, and live.

What Counts As “Hard Shit”

It’s personal. For some: run a mile. For others: 10 triathlons in a month. What matters:

• It’s long‑term and punishing (physically and mentally).
• It requires daily work with no quick fix.
• At some point you think it’s stupid, impossible, or not worth it — and keep going.

The Process (No Shortcuts)

1. Pick one obscene goal with a deadline.
2. Break it into daily/weekly milestones. Put them on the calendar.
3. Expect to want to quit. Plan for friction: early alarms, cold starts, solo sessions.
4. Recover only as needed. Otherwise, stack days and love the grind.
5. Finish, then reset higher. Confidence compounds through cycles, not one win.

What Changes After You Finish

You earn self‑respect. You know you can suffer, learn, and execute — so you stop faking it. You become useful everywhere: at work, at home, and in crises. Even when you’re new or bad at something, you attack it and figure it out. That’s real confidence.

Do hard shit. Forge the identity you want. Then raise the bar.

Frequently Asked Questions

How do I choose the right “hard” goal?

Pick something that scares you but is technically achievable with 3–6 months of daily effort. If you’re unsure, it’s probably right.

What if I fail?

Redefine failure: adjust timeline, recalibrate milestones, and continue. Quitting is failure; iteration is progress.

How do I stay consistent?

Track daily reps, set non‑negotiable time blocks, find an accountability partner, and remove friction (gear ready, route planned).

What should I do after I finish?

Recover deliberately, capture lessons, set a harder goal, and mentor someone else. Hard men make more hard men.